Depression and Some Causes Other Than What Requires Medication
Depression and some causes, ummm. Like what? What causes depression? Really there are a lot of causes of depression. It could range from eating foods that our bodies don’t agree with, all the way to hereditary symptoms that run in the family.
But what if the causes are responsive to situations you may be going through.
Do you know that being in an abusive relationship can cause depression? What about if you’re not in an abusive relationship but your spouse or loved one just doesn’t support you in any of your endeavors? Any of your dreams? They are not really being abusive but they are certainly not supportive.
It leads to bumping heads and loud disagreements. Well, maybe not loud. But many, many, many disagreements that can turn into awkward conversations and hurt feelings that end up diminishing the relationship and killing trust.
Now, you might be thinking something like,” I can have a disagreement without killing the love or whatever else you’re talking about”. That could be. And if you are able to do that, awesome!
But for some of us… It leads to depression. Why does it lead to depression, and some causes would be what?
Because there is a hopelessness that comes from hurt feelings that are repeatedly hurt. And if trust (due to hurtful words being said) has become an issue, sometimes the next thought is separation. What if you had kids? What if you are already a divorce survivor and already watched a kid suffer because of it? What if you still love them and they have only recently started acting this way, AND you have been with them for a long time?
These are really important questions. But they lead to confusion and often times cause depression. There is no way around it. If you are interested in trying to salvage the relationship. One thing is for certain. It will take work. Here is the fun part. This is also the most difficult. You need to focus on yourself and not the other person.
Some things to focus on instead might include:
Taking care of yourself during these times will be super important. Especially if they are being particularly hurtful. The sad part is they may or may not have any clue that they are being hurtful. I know you think they know it, but unfortunately, that is not always the case.
It’s ok. I don’t mind if you disagree. I know there are many people who have already walked this road and have the experience that the person knew full well what they were doing.
Your own habits should be observed. How you act. And treat yourself and others. Is there a reason you or your significant other are arguing more frequently? Is there something you are doing that is causing it? Maybe you have started some new bad habits that they don’t appreciate. Or maybe it’s the other way around and they have started something bad or annoying.
The point is to observe any new behaviors and habits that you and your partner keep.
Make sure you continue to take care of your physical self as well. Things like drinking water and not binge eating or having a bunch of sweets in retaliation. Just because you are not getting along is not a reason to hurt yourself more by putting into your body a bunch of junk food. I know it’s hard. Every time the hubby and I get into it, I remember that chocolate is my favorite fruit.
Reducing stress will go a long way to healing. After an argument, those feelings can last a long time unless we do something with the extra flight or fight energy that builds up. Exercise is an excellent way to reduce stress and improve the feel-good hormones that are released during exercise. It helps us to think clearly.
I don’t know about you but when I am upset I have a huge difficulty thinking straight. All I can think about is what they did to me and how it affects me. When the reality is that in a relationship I should be thinking about us and how it affects us. Forgiveness goes a long way to our own sanity. It’s not just for them. Forgiving them stops them from renting space in our heads for the rest of however long we are mad!
Many times while we are mad, they are off having a good ole time!!!
There are so many things that cause depression. The letdowns we have in life cause depression. Life has ups and downs and it is just apart of life. How we take it is what is important. Reducing stress in these situations is vital. So, reduce stress. Eat healthily and get enough fluids. Take care of yourself by focusing on you and not them.
This will help in SOME of the causes of depression.