Be Happy Where You Are
How to be happy where you are. I have a confession to make. I have not been very happy where I am at. The exercising has not been happening nor the food control. I had two weeks where I did well with my exercising but other than that, NOT. While my hormones have been mostly under control (thanks to the Maca Powder) the rest of me has not been feeling in all that much control. Why is that?
I can tell you exactly what happens when we don’t keep good habits in our lifetime. What happens is that we have a more difficult time keeping to our word and our goals. We struggle more often with depression. Many of us end up on medication. Some of us need said medication and some of us just need to keep better habits. To take better care of ourselves.
How do we keep control of our habits? AND especially if we have kept bad habits a majority of our lifetime. Here’s How. One habit at a time. We cannot break bad habits unless we have a good habit to replace the bad one with. I cannot replace my habit of not exercising with emptiness or tv and doughnuts. Those are more bad habits. I cannot replace a lifetime of rebelliousness with words of how I’m going to better.
So I need to think of ways to get out of my funk. How do we be happy where we are? I’m sure there is a way to do it. So I’m wondering why I haven’t been able to. I have so many wonderful things in my life. I have family and friends. Much of my family has been reunited and then I also have my hubby’s family. My friends have been missing me but even that is about change to where they will be able to see me more often.
I do have some upcoming life changes about to happen. I would think that those alone would be enough to make me ecstatic. It does make me really happy. So why is it that my happiness is so limited. Why can I not be happy where I am. I know I’m leaving my job and I’m getting what I want. What is the problem?
I can tell you what the problem is.
Are you ready? Here is the problem. ME… I am the problem. No, I don’t mean me personally. There is nothing wrong with me but there is something wrong with my thinking and the way I approach my problems. The things I say about myself to myself needs to change. How I see what is in my life. So there are a few things we can focus on right now. Here is a short list of what I think will help.
- Don’t talk bad about yourself
- Do say five to ten positive statements about yourself everyday
If we want to think well of ourselves but are consistently talking bad about ourselves, then how are we to come above our own judgments. We hear enough negative criticism from others. It should not also come from ourselves. Next time your about to do some major self criticism try to think of at least five positive things to replace the one negative comment you just said.
- Don’t give up on yourself
- Do regularly encourage yourself
When I say don’t give up on yourself I’m talking about quitting. Don’t quit just because you get the wrong encouragement from the wrong people. Make sure it is what you are supposed to do and then do it with all your might. Sometimes you might have to start over but if you know that you are not quitting then you’re not really starting over. At least not from scratch. Sometimes it takes more than one try to be successful. Success is not measured by how quickly you got there but by not giving up when it didn’t happen the first time.
- Remember the good things in life
Sometimes when we want to throw in the towel a good thing to do is remember all the good things that you either have in life or that you have accomplished in life. Even if it is a super small goal. If you accomplished it then that is a success. Celebrate any victory you have, be it small or great.
- Get help if you need it
Let’s face it. Sometimes we need a little help. Every once in a while we need someone to be there for us. AND some of us need more help than others. It’s ok to need a friend or a counselor or even in some instances, medication. We are all different and all have goals. It is best for us to get to see success in our goals. Some of us need life counselors or coaches to cheer us on.
Fact is that if you need help and you don’t get it then you could be setting yourself up for failure. Just like we all need different things we all act differently when we fail. Failure can lead to guilt. Guilt is a very powerful tool, and it’s not good. Guilt and depression can hurt all areas of your life including family, friends, loved ones and more. Get the help you need.
Failure vs Success?
Failure can also lead to goodness. but only if we are healthy in the other ways that matter for us as individuals. For some people failure makes them try harder or smarter. Success can not happen without a certain amount of failure. But if we need some other kind of help it’s all for nothing. Get the help you need. Yes failure can be good. We learn from our mistakes.
Mistakes and failure can actually lead to being happy. When things happen we learn that what we were doing didn’t work and try something else. So for myself I know that I have been struggling with my goals. I know that I have not wanted to share where I am at. Part of growth involves admitting stuff. Sharing my failure might help someone. Including me.
Today I am going to focus on what I can do to be more successful. To be happy where I am at. To change my thinking. I admitted that I have not been doing well and now I am ready to try something different. I don’t know what that is yet. First thing is to go over my goals. Maybe I have made one of my goals unattainable. OR maybe something else is going on. One thing is certain if I go over my goals it will show me where I am at.