Surprise, Today We Will Be Measuring Success
How are you with measuring success? Do you start out by looking at all your failures? Are you naturally good at everything and have no use for challenges? I bet that is not the case. There are very few people who start out good at everything and have no need to grow.
What shall we measure? A majority of people only see what is wrong with them. But a good inventory of all personal qualities helps to relieve some of that. If we sit around and look at everything that is wrong with us all the time, it to steals our focus. We are worth more than what is wrong or deficient in us. So today let’s focus on what we are good at. We are not failing to see what is wrong with us. Chances are you already know what that is.
We already know what is wrong with us.
Is there something your especially good at? If you don’t think so or can’t think of anything, a good way to find something is to ask somebody else. Make sure it is not someone who spends a majority of their time putting you down. No. You want to ask someone who is positive. Someone who talks to you nicely on a regular basis. Call 3-5 of your closest friends and ask them to describe you in one word. Or come right out and ask them if they think you are especially good at something.
Chances are they can think of something you can’t. Then maybe write that idea or thought down and focus on it. Try spending 10 minutes a day just focusing on the positive idea of what you’re good at. How could you improve that one thing in your life? What would it take to do it better? Is there a goal you could create out of it?
Goals help shape our lives
Once you have it in your head that you are good at something, then when the negative thoughts of how you messed up come intruding in your thoughts. It won’t sound so harsh. Just because we mess up does not mean we are not good. It doesn’t mean that suddenly we can’t be trusted with anything else and it most definitely doesn’t give other people the right to start acting as if one accident is a daily occurrence.
Let’s start measuring success by our success and our accomplishments instead of by our failures.
For example, I have been failing at weight loss. But have I really? I’m doing my part. You know the part where I learn how to eat and exercise as well as stay hydrated. Have I been measuring my success? Noooooo. I have been looking at when I don’t eat right or when I don’t have time to exercise. Or OMG, I just ate that whole cake. Obviously, I know that isn’t good for me.
Those habits don’t change overnight. Remembering to drink enough water doesn’t happen because you say it does. It happens when you put the action behind the words and find a way to stay accountable to your goal. Whether it is eating right, exercising, hydrating. Or maybe your goal is to do a specific kind of exercise.
Let’s start measuring success
You could already be in the best shape of your life but have a goal to run a marathon or participate in a triathlon. It happens by taking action. Let’s start measuring our success by looking at what we did to get closer to our goal.
Today, I pulled up one of the many saved Pinterest exercising pictures. It has the instructions right in the pic! I didn’t think I could do it or I guess I should say, I thought it would take longer than it did. I have been meaning to start actually doing the stuff I save. It’s great information. What happens when we save stuff and don’t try it. We can’t give an honest opinion. It took me about 20 minutes. Probably less than. I have to say the last one told me just how out of shape I really am. It hurt and I just barely made it the whole 60 seconds.
The point is that I have been saying I would try some of these for at least a week, maybe two. Today I did. I read someone else’s story and thought to myself “I’m not getting anywhere because I’m not putting in enough effort”. What I have been putting in is negativity. Saying maybe I should be like this the rest of my life. Not because I want to but because I don’t feel like I have a choice. I play the game (not really) of not getting to the gym when the kids are sick.
Shouldn’t be an issue, it is Just an excuse
I have Zumba at the house. There is Pinterest with the many saves. Not to mention Facebook videos and my favorite place of all, Sparkpeople.com. No more excuses. Yesterday I fell out of a chair. And I didn’t have the strength to stop myself from falling on my kids. Babies. I am currently 228 lbs. Thankfully they are ok. But enough is enough.
What does that equal? Motivation. That is my motivation. I have been being successful. But because I have been measuring my success by how bad I’m doing, I have been feeling like a failure.
How are you going to be measuring yourself today? Start measuring success.