You Are Not A Failure But Keep Trying And You Can Be A Success
Do you want to feel like a success? Why is it when we don’t do everything perfectly that many of us start to feel like a failure. Sometimes we start to speak negatively about or even to ourselves. How is it that we can treat animals or friends with loving kindness. Forgiving little sins or mistakes. Then we eat that chocolate cake and suddenly the world as we know it is ending. And it is all our fault. We knew we should not have eaten that cake. It has too much sugar. Therefore it is raising our blood sugar or it’s too fattening. What about our diet. We were supposed to be having a smoothie with healthy fruits and veggies. That is what we bought the special coconut water or milk for. How many people hear this rant… from ourselves to ourselves?
It’s ok. You can be honest. No? Well, I will do it. What about if you made the cake? Or what’s worse is that the cake was so good that you couldn’t help but be proud of yourself for making it from scratch and not out of a box? I can tell you exactly how this feels. This was the last two days for me. I made the cake and the frosting from scratch earlier in the week. I had some kinda emotional stuff going on. Still, I haven’t pinpointed what it is yet. But I know it was emotional. Then today when I got home, I knew I was going to eat the cake. While sitting down I realized I was in need of comfort and I was eating to comfort myself. From what, I still don’t know but it was definitely a comfort type of eating moment.
I’m telling on myself
This is my accountability. I created a Food Journal and Emotional Eating Control Chart to help with this. Did I use it? No. I did not. I did get out my mat earlier this week because I haven’t been able to get to the gym like I like these past few weeks. We had sickness in the house again. The weather changed and I have little kids. Thankfully what I caught from my toddler was gone quickly. However, the kids still have a cough and they have been refusing fluids. So getting it gone quicker for them is turning into quite the battle! I got out the mat, ball, weights and a few other exercise toys I have with the hopes that when I’m not working on my business I can get in a little weight training. The point is to still be moving forward even though my eating habits are moving me backward.
Just keep going forward
All of my eating habits have not been as bad as I make it sound. I have been sticking to the serving size of one cup for cereal and I pre-made all my breakfasts for this week of eggs and zucchini. I know that cereal raises my blood sugar. It has hardly any calories. I think it’s like 200 or 300 calories with milk and yet it makes my blood sugar too high. The sad part is that it makes it higher than this piece of cake I had. We all know the cake is worse though, right??? Yes, it is. So I need to figure out why I am struggling so much to stay on track. I want to be a success story. Yet so far I am a story that hasn’t given up and successes have been far and few in between.
Maybe it’s stress
If nothing else this is good for someone else. We all have our struggles. Mine is with food and stress. Lack of control and having emotions try to tell me what to do. Also, I use to drink enough water when I was working. Since quitting my job I find it more difficult to remember to drink enough. I’m working on these things but seriously if I don’t put my foot forward then I’m not gonna go anywhere. And if I tell myself that I’m no good and failing then I’m putting myself down. It is hard to be a success when you spend the day calling yourself a failure. Some self-criticism is good but if we are continuously bullying ourselves… that is not good. There are enough people in this world to bully us. We need to not be a source for that too.
We need to say to ourselves ” I am a success”
Self-talk is so important. What we say to ourselves could change how we act for that day. For example: As I was eating that chocolate piece of cake with the cream cheese frosting, I decided to take note of how I was feeling in that moment. I had just got through telling myself when I left the house, “I am not going to eat that cake.” What would happen if I focused on the fact that I had once again had eaten sweets that I knew were harming my weight loss efforts? That I had not drunk enough water to lower the blood sugar? I’ll tell you. Many more negative comments and thoughts would have been happening. All day long. Instead, I chose to focus on why I was eating the cake. It tasted delicious. I made it from scratch and when I sat down I felt like I needed comfort.
BINGO. I needed comfort.
In that moment I let go of the guilt (which would have haunted me for the rest of the day and maybe caused a binge eating). Guilt often times plays the culprit when we start eating or doing something we said we would not do. Causing whatever habit we are participating in at that moment to have its way. Today I will not be controlled by all my bad habits. Without the guilt, I did not feel the need to chastise myself repeatedly over my bad food choice. This allows me to focus on the future and how I can improve my choices. For today, I can look at eating better. I can study other sites and people without feeling the need to focus on every mistake I make. I don’t know about you but when I see one mistake in one area all the other mistake in all areas become more visible to me. Creates a good atmosphere for a pity party. I do not enjoy those kinds of party’s. They usually end up with me crying or in a bad mood. I’m married and have two kids. Being in a bad mood is a very bad thing!!!
What will you do for today?
So for today, I hope this will inspire someone to not be their worst frienemy. If you make a mistake, admit it and try to move on without all the negative self-talk. Your one mistake is not worth the rest of your day. How can you make it better? You can start your day over at any time you want. All you have to do is want to. Maybe you need to take a minute to do some deep breathing or go to the bathroom and sit there and play a game on your phone. Whatever you do decide to do, I want you to know you can choose. If you want to not let it rule you. Speak it. I am a success. This small failure will not control the outcome. I may have lost this battle but I am going to win the war! You are worth it.